If We Went Hiking Today…

This post was inspired by similar posts by Cait Flanders and Amanda from Musical Poem

I would be glad that I finally got the opportunity to leave the hustle and bustle of Nairobi…even if it would be for a little while. We would probably share my veggie sandwiches, tortilla chips with hummus, apples and probably some plain old H2O. I would ask how you have been since our last long phone call.  Did you manage to remodel your apartment? Did you manage to bargain down the prices for that TV stand that we saw along Ngong Road that you were going to repurpose as a  fancy bookshelf?

I would probably go on a tangent about Ryan Holiday’s new book Perennial Seller. Although it just came out on July 18th, I am pretty excited to get my hands on it. I have just finished reading Ego is the Enemy and  I have to confess that Myleik sealed the deal when she hosted him on her podcast.  Yes, I  have been following both for a while and no, I was not deterred by the fact that he worked with Robert Greene whose book 48 Laws of Power did not make my personal all time favourite non-fiction reads.  You would allow me to tell you how amazed I was by the way Ryan has been able to distill various episodes in Greek, Roman and even American history into lessons about the ego. For a guy who quotes a lot of American politics, sports and military strategy, he has got my attention.

You would probably argue that there is no much difference with his books from conventional self-help despite them being classified under the business/psychology. I would rebut by saying that the thing about Ryan Holiday and his contemporaries Cal Newport and Adam Grant (because I picture them hanging out at Ryan’s ranch) is that I don’t feel like I am being “pitched” by sleazy snake oil salesman.  Plus, I learn something new from them.

Speaking of Adam Grant, his book Give and Take has been on my mind. With greater reason since my recent incident when someone wanted to engage my freelance writing and editing services. For free. I have never been so mad that someone would think that I would work for free just because we had a good business relationship. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t mind volunteering my skills when I can but it all depends on the person’s ask and not on the person not banking on my naivety. In addition, there are instances outside my church activities that I would genuinely work for free.Having that “break-up conversation” was worth it because it eased the mental burden and I am so grateful to a couple of friends who gave me a kick in the butt. This also brought to light how much easier it is to give advice than to take it. I have read a gazillion articles about negotiating my worth but not quite put it.

We would segue to talk about French women and their fashion sense since they seem quite unapologetic and comfortable in their own skin. I  would excitedly tell you about my latest YouTube fancy: Justine Leconte.  She is the bomb.com. Justine has inspired me with her career shift from business to fashion. Justine, she has made fashion a bit more accessible because she breaks everything like she is talking to  10-year olds but at the same distills so much knowledge and feel more empowered to make better fashion choices. I think I have reached my saturation point for clothing and book hauls. Finding her channel was definitely a breath of fresh air.

This has also inspired me to take on a minimalist streak. Shopping is definitely an addiction that one just can’t switch off like that. I mean I would love to walk to various  Toi or House of Leather (the near equivalent to a Dollar Tree or Pound Store) and buy only the things that I actually need.  I have to admit after the 30-day no-book-buying ban in June inspired by The Financial Diet, I have been able to exercise more restraint in bookstores and inama bookshops than I give myself credit for. Nonetheless, I would subtly hint at wanting to receive Erin Loechner’s Chasing Slow for my birthday  Maybe it’s a blessing in disguise that Book Depository does not ship to Kenya and somehow, I am really not keen on ordering from Amazon while back in Kenya. But still, I seriously need to take down my TBR

Speaking of media, I missed the S-Town train despite many people include some IRL recommending it to me. Well, 2017 is not over yet, so there is still time a bit of time left.  I totally agree with Read Create Repeat Homeschool, who recently talked about her major slumps lately including podcasts? I definitely agree with her: fewer podcasts and more music and more dance. Shower routines definitely count. By the way, have you listened to Josh Wilson’s Blown Away? That song definitely gets me on my feet.  I would recommend this song that I  got to know through Samantha Lindsey ( her minimalism channel is pretty awesome too). It’s definitely contending for a spot on my wedding playlist.

I would probably ask if you could recommend a Spotify-esque app that is available in Kenya. I still haven’t found a replacement. As I mentioned in my 2017 goals, I want to revive my love for classical music.I have been loving Halidon Music and Brilliant Classics playlists on Youtube as I work but I would love something more…mobile?

I am so surprised at the number of female authors that I have read unknowingly and from diverse genres. For some reasons, I have been purchasing a number of books authored by Catherine Marshall, I am sure that you recall Christy TV show based on her books that used to be on KBC eons ago.  I found a prayer book and read Julie (which I loved) that she authored a few years that made want to find out more about her life. Coincidently, I found  A Closer Walk and Beyond Our Selves on the streets of Nairobi, which I am looking forward to reading by the end of the year.

Still, on the subject of awesome women, I would ask if you have watched Wonder Woman. I would gush about how much I enjoyed it without meaning to. It has been a while since a movie made me reflect on so many historical, philosophical and spiritual issues all at the same time!  Then we would shout out loud as if on cue: Les Mis!  I was scared that all the hype would have affected my perceptions. Nonetheless, I will definitely watch it again and not just because of Chris Pine. Even without the super powers, her character is definitely worth emulating.  I would ask you what would you if you were not afraid or what super powers you would like to have.

When we finally got back, I would tell you that I am glad that we took the time to hang out together. It is definitely nice to take a break from the usual coffee house circuit. You know that I don’t mind sitting in cafes but so far, I have not been able to find a barista in Nairobi who can make a mean Earl Gray. You also know that I love home fries with loads of mushroom sauce. But sometimes, it gets a bit boring to not to have a variety of vegetarian/vegan options in the CBD. Plus, I had missed stepping on the grass and do a horrible rendition of  “the hills are alive with the sound of music”

Before we part ways, we would share our plans for the remaining five months in 2017 and I would remind you to pray for our country. We both know that every general election brings a strong sense of angst and I would wish that would get it over and done with.



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A More Realistic Plan for Coping in the Distraction Age


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The reason why there is “social” in social media is that we can keep in touch and build networks. Ironically, the more connected that we become via all these new platforms, the more blurry our personal relationships become. I can’t tell you the number of times, people have sent me a friend or connection request on various platforms but when we meet IRL (in real life), our conversations can’t go past ‘Hello’.

Another reality of living in the social media age is that we are afraid of being alone, physically and mentally. That’s why everywhere you look, everyone is either scrolling through their feed or plugged in their earphones to either avoid the mental noise or avoid making small talk with the stranger sitting next to them on the bus.  I know you are going to say this is the only time that I have to finish listening to S-Town but sometimes we rob ourselves of the opportunity to think through the issues that we are facing and the joy of living in the moment.

When I took the time to reflect on my own social media habits, I realised a couple of things:

Networking ≠ Not Working.

Let that sink for a minute.

I know. I know. As a person who ‘graduated’ with a Magna Cum Laude from “Google University”, I can authoritatively say that not everything falls under the bracket of “research”.  As an early career researcher, I know that spending a lot of time on the internet can mislead you to think that you are being productive but in essence, you are only sinking deeper into the internet black hole.

I am sure that if you simply scroll through your Twitter feed you will find numerous links to articles or online courses or webinars that promise to help leverage your social media presence. But, if you calculate the total amount of the time that you spend on these social media platforms and compare it with the yielded ROTI (Return on Time Invested, not the Indian flatbread), you will not be very proud of yourself.

Related to this, be present when you are meeting people for coffee dates or meals by putting your device face and/or on flight mode. One of the best gifts that you can give a fellow human being is reminding them that they are special or worthwhile by giving them your full attention.

Scheduling time for researching specific items and then disconnecting from the internet so that I can purely focus on my tasks and allows you time to spend time with the important people in your life whether in person or via phone or Skype.

Batch and Ship

Unless you are expecting some urgent information, you can put off opening my email as the first order of the day, when you get to the office.  As someone once put it, you are less likely to bombarding yourself with other people’s priorities first before setting up your own for the day. By letting your mail pile and answering them at specific times of the day will enable you to focus on the important first and it also gives you a sense of achieving instead of switching attention from multiple tabs.

One of the perks of living in a digital economy is that there is an app for everything. So use the tools at your disposal to filter and organise your email so that you can focus on creating and achieving your goals.  Personally, I was inspired by the KonMari method by Japanese Marie Kondo, I am have been on unsubscribing and deleting accounts that I no longer resonate with.

You Do Not Have Read Every Single Blog Post

Keeping up with the news using a blog aggregator or reader such as RSS, Bloglovin’, Feedly etc. can be a double-edged sword.  They are great at reducing the number of tabs that you open go but at the same time, depending on the number of blogs that you subscribe you can also easily get overwhelmed especially when you take a mini-hiatus.In such situations, selectively clipping important articles, sections or pictures and saving them on apps like Evernote or Pocket, not only reduces your carbon footprint but also helps to organise them in an accessible manner. It is also important to give yourself permission to  ‘Mark All Read’.

Go ahead.

The world will not come to an end.

Go Cold Turkey

I decided to wean myself of social media like deleting my WhatsApp yourself by replacing the time with an alternative activity.  In my case, after I completed my grad school dissertation, I hungered for alternative information. So I headed to the library and charity shops to find books that did not fall under the finance and economics categories. But I fell into a reading slump and had to make the conscious effort to get back into my groove. Nowadays, I always have a book with me so that I read while commuting or queuing as well as to block off all the glaring ‘FREE WIFI’ signs.

While you might not be a bookish person, still hear me out. This might be the perfect time to get take up that hobby that you have been postponing for lack of time like visiting flea markets, hiking or playing a sport.

Disconnecting helps you connect and create more -Ann Makosinki

Social Media Free Weekends

Arguably most people tend to make use of their social media accounts during their downtime. Who would not want to immortalise that they attended the Koroga Festival or all the cute things that you saw at the K1 Flea Market? But sometimes,  it better to savour the moments with worrying how many likes or re-tweets Sunday oatmeal pancakes garnered on social media. Maybe this could be the perfect time to practice your photography skills on the DSLR that is gathering dust. How about taking the wellness challenge and swap endless scrolling on your screen for real face-to-face conversations?

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Put the Miracle into Your Mornings

If you have ever watched  YouTube sensations’  morning routines, you will notice that most of them will begin their days by automatically reaching for their iPhones and checking their Instagram and Facebook feed and replying to their comments and tags. I used to check my Twitter feed first thing in the morning but I noticed that by the time I got out of bed, I was emotionally and psychologically drained by all the horrible news that occurred while I rested. So I stopped.

I decided to use this time in a more mindful manner like spiritual meditation, journaling and ensuring that I have time to eat a proper breakfast. (I am still working on the exercise part.). These are all activities that Hal Elrod describes as Miracle Mornings where you schedule an hour or two of self-care so that you prepare yourself for world domination and other issues that may have occurred while you were sleeping.

Arriving at your place of work gives you an opportunity to have some “me-time” to write your to-do lists first and/or finishing the last couple of pages of the book that I was reading during my commute or reading articles.

In the context of work, uncontrolled time makes me uncomfortable. If you’re serious about working deeply and producing high-end value, it should probably make you uncomfortable as well. Using your inbox to drive your daily schedule might be fine for the entry-level or those content with a career of cubicle-dwelling mediocrity, but the best knowledge workers view their time like the best investors view their capital, as a resource to wield for maximum returns – Cal Newport

After my introspection, I have given myself permission to decline random social media requests and to consciously subscribe to newsletters. I truly believe that if someone is genuinely interested in you and what you do, they will go beyond a generic “I would like to add you to my LinkedIn Network” request and drop you a note (DM, email or snail mail).  More importantly, I am continuously reminding myself that I should not judge my everyday life with someone else’s social media feed.

As I write this, I recognise that social media is a force that everyone has to struggle with.

That I have also to struggle with. Every. Single. Day.

Psychologists have even equated social media to Pavlovian cues trigger dopamine, the pleasure hormone.  This, in turn, results in you falling into the internet rabbit hole.

But in the long run, it will boil down to the counting the cost of building quality relationships, building your body of work and your overall well-being.

How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives-Annie Dillard 

The ball is in your court.


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